10 Steps Towards Being a Better Boating Buddy
I am at the moment, boatless. A person who depends on the kindness of friends and family to get his fishing fix and time on the water. In less civilized circles we’re known as “boat ho’s,” — but I wear the label proudly.
When I owned my own boats, I quickly learned the value of buddies who could share in the fun and make boat ownership easier and less expensive. Now that I’m on the other side of the fence, I work hard at being on the top of my friends’ call list when they’re putting together inshore or offshore fishing trips off Southern California.
Here are 10 easy ways to be a better “boating buddy.” If you follow these general rules, you’ll probably be invited back again and again. 1. Pitch in for expenses. Owning and operating a boat is a serious expense. Not just trip-related costs like fuel, food and bait, but also insurance, registration, slip fees, maintenance, etc. that come up all year long. Guests who ask up front how and how much they can contribute usually rise to the top of the list when putting together fishing trips.
2. Get involved in the planning. Help with planning the trip, whether it’s researching where the bite is, picking up needed tackle or equipment, or getting the boat ready. There’s also nothing wrong with being proactive and suggesting outings. Some of my best trips happened because I picked up the phone and called my boat-owning friends. Most of the time, they’re looking for a good reason to get out on the water and your call may just be the right incentive.
3. Be punctual. Nothing gets a trip off to a bad start like waiting around for somebody to arrive. Be sure you know exactly when and where you’re supposed to meet, and be there 15 minutes early. If you’re not familiar with the marina/launch ramp, get directions the night before (or use your vehicle’s GPS). Make certain you have the skipper’s cell number, so you can call well ahead of time if you are unavoidably detained.
4. Don’t bring too much “stuff.” Don’t be the guy who shows up on a 21-foot center console toting 10 fishing rods, a tackle box, ice chest, boom box, video camera with tripod, etc. Make sure you discuss in advance how many rods the boat can accommodate and what gear you really need to bring. I keep a soft-sided tackle bag that I pack with the basics and bring on other people’s vessels.
5. Be a crew member. Ask the skipper what you can do to help in managing the boat and the day’s activities. Having a role is part of the fun, even if you’re just stowing the dock lines or hosing off the deck. The more trips you go on, the more of a “well oiled” machine you become (and the more responsibilities you’ll have). When you’re asked to take a turn at the helm or help in setting the anchor, you’ll feel some of the same pride you felt as a boat owner.
6. Hands off the electronics. As a rule of thumb, I don’t lay a finger on my friends’ electronics without asking first. The captain may have them set up a certain way and will not appreciate your changing the gain on the echosounder, adjusting the radar settings or playing with the VHF. As you become an accepted crewmember, you may need to do these things (such as jogging the autopilot to avoid an obstacle), but it’s always best to take an “ask first” approach.
7. Respect the Captain’s authority. —As a member of the crew, it’s your job to respect the captain’s authority and do what you’re asked. This includes obeying the captain’s rules regarding smoking, drinking and general personal conduct.
8. Bring your fishing “A game”. The boat owner/captain generally feels great pride when his crew catches fish. It’s a sense of accomplishment that can’t be matched, even by catching fish himself. As a member of the crew, you’re expected to bring your fishing “A game” every trip. This means having all your gear prepped and in good order, being well rested (not hung over) and fishing hard all day.
9. Be supportive. As crew, you can provide input as to the fishing plan for the day, but ultimately, it’s the skipper’s call on where to go and what to fish for. Sometimes his choices pay off, sometimes they don’t. It never pays to “second guess” the captain’s choices. Instead, be supportive and express appreciation for a day on the water. “We’ll get ‘em next time!” is a good motivator and lets him know you’re ready to sail with him again.
10. Help with clean up. The fishing day isn’t done until the fish are cleaned and the boat is washed up and put away. ‘Nuff said.